Thursday, February 25, 2010


I've been thinking lately about what it is that draws a woman to a man and vice-versa? And is there really such a thing as love at first sight??

I know for myself, there are certain things that immediately draw me in, and I'm talking pure aesthetics....a great smile (nice teeth), engaging eyes, good skin, nice name a few. But love?? What is it beyond that immediate attraction that makes someone take a second and a third and a fourth look?

People often say that they know within the first 5 minutes whether someone they've met has boyfriend/girlfriend "potential" or not. I think what is more often the case is that you know instantly if someone doesn't have a chance, but not necessarily if they do. Personality is such a HUGE X-factor and it is truly such a variable that I think it's almost impossible to completely rule someone out without having a conversation. And what is an appealing character trait in one person doesn't necessarily carry the same appeal on another. Weird how that is....but when people overlook the fact that someone is rude, thoughtless, selfish, unkind, or disrespectful just to be with the bombshell or the handsome hunk, we know how long those relationships last - not very!

There are certain deal breakers however. Instant No-Can-Dos. Shorter than me? Nope. Unintelligent? I'll pass. Smoke cigarettes? Hell to the no! Now while I don't think I've ever experienced love at first sight, I think I've had lust, lol, but I would never rule out the fact that it happens.

***"Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle." ~ Amy Bloom ***


eclectik said...

I so miss you.

For the record I dont smoke and Im 6'0


Kandia said...

I go a lot by a person's vibe and the type of chemistry that we have. Other than nice arms, I'm big on mental stimulation...if I don't have anything to talk to you about then I don't care how good you look, it's not gonna progress into anything long-term.

I haven't personally experienced love at first sight but I do believe it's possible.

Amerie said...

Hey Jackie,
I'm one of your blog readers, I've been a little busy lately so I haven't had time to check on you. Good topic. I can honestly say that love at first sight can really happen. I met my husband on a plane. We were flying to new york. we both fell for eachother and the feeling that you feel is magical. We instantly started dating and a few months later we got married. Weve been married 4 years now but it still feels like that first day we met. It's such a wonderful feeling, almost fairytale like. Lol. Another love at first sight was our pastor and his wife. They met and a moth later got married and have been married for 15 years now. And they are still in love like tey are newlyweds. So yes fairy tales really do happen. :-)

Garret of Jim and Garret said...

So what brought this topic on? Got a new love?

Jackie E. said...

Eclectik: Miss you and that blog of yours too:-)

Kandia: Ditto!!

Amerie: What a lovely story! And I definitely still believe in fairy tales!!

Garrett: Well now if I answered that, I 'd have to kill you, lol!! Let's just say that I'm a happy girl:-)

dejanae said...

stupid is my number one deal breaker
shit dries up real quick when ur iq seems to be in the single digits

Alyssa said...

Well, I feel odd on the love at first sight thing. I mean, I personally think that I need to be physically attracted to someone. I can tell by the way a person looks when I first see them whether or not we would fit physically. Also, I know that I can tell their attitude at the moment by their expression or the way that they are carrying themselves. Guys who are in a good mood attract easier.

On the other hand, personality is important and I feel like the need for a great personality is demeaned by the fact that people focus on the outside rather than the inside. I think that the outside is important but the inside is more important.

So, unless I could read minds, love at first sight is a myth.

mee.. said...

you must know someone too be in love; thats what i beilive.

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